Videos about narcissism, China
Happiness versus pleasure
One can see this distinction in the wider society too - East vs. West; cultures with different foundations - long term (family, infrastructure, community, the arts) versus short term (hype, sex, gossip, war). Mature versus immature. We versus me.
The immature mind thinks 'me'; the mature mind understands that life is really about 'we'.
Maturity is when one grows beyond the narcissism phase *.
'I' am just a small part of a bigger 'I' - humanity.
With Dr. Robert Lustig ...
[video v=EKkUtrL6B18]One is controlled when one believes what one has been told (sold).
Freedom is removing these mind chains and seeing reality.
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* (footnote) At BB, we think that narcissism is a development phase that most transition out of; but some stay there and it can become exaggerated. The traditional views might also be true; likely, there is an interplay involved.
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Aside #1 : Q : Why does BB have so much content about health - nutrition and mental well-being ?
A : Because it is fundamental to everything else; one cannot see the beauty of life if one's mind is mixed up; one cannot live life to the full if one is ill.
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Aside #2 : Confucius : One can grow from everybody one meets. On life's journey, one will meet wise people - learn from them; one will also meet foolish people - look deep within to see if one also has these follies.
Something different – more about narcissism (psychology)
At root, narcissism ('life is all about me') is self-loathing projected onto someone else (the scapegoat, who might be driven to death - through illness, madness, suicide; let's call it what it is - emotional torture; in contrast, all others are shown a completely opposite, OTT, 'lovely' persona; and many will be deceived by this).
Narcissism is very destructive; and not often recognized.
This is not a rare thing; it could well be 1 in 5 people.
Don't miss this; Dr. Ramani is awesome.
Ramani Durvasula in conversation with Lewis Howes ...
[video v=fuqT0oSFUSI]Narcissistic fathers and the damage they do to their children ...
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More about narcissism
Narcissists, psychopaths and other toxic people
A first step in getting out of a trapped life, to a real life, is to become free of toxic people.
Nobody is perfect; but most people know, to some extent, their faults, feel empathy and try to be better. But some people cannot see their faults, lack empathy and are always 'right' - the most important thing to know is that they cannot be 'fixed', understood, or healed by you (only a highly skilled psychotherapist stands a chance, and that's partly because there is no life relationship).
If you cannot (yet) get away, at least become aware that it is not your problem.
One can sense some similarities in dynamics with geo-politics.
A variety of voices on this topic - in no particular order (may need multiple viewings because it can take time to understand more than superficially) ...
[video v=FDxVRjQ8LKE] Plus more videos ...