Something different – more about narcissism (psychology)

At root, narcissism ('life is all about me') is self-loathing projected onto someone else (the scapegoat, who might be driven to death - through illness, madness, suicide; let's call it what it is - emotional torture; in contrast, all others are shown a completely opposite, OTT, 'lovely' persona; and many will be deceived by this).

Narcissism is very destructive; and not often recognized.

This is not a rare thing; it could well be 1 in 5 people.

Don't miss this; Dr. Ramani is awesome.

Ramani Durvasula in conversation with Lewis Howes ...

Narcissistic fathers and the damage they do to their children ...

Relationships need some work, including self-reflection; but they shouldn't be hard work - that's a sign it might never work out; if one feels a need to be treading on egg shells, that's confirmation it is doomed. Real relationships are based on mutual respect, flexibility and compassion (unconditional love - no ifs or buts)*; narcissists have none of these attributes.

In a time of stress, does the other stay positive and chip in, or start a blame game? Things like this are the signs to look out for. Does the other help you reach your dreams, or belittle you ? Are they present in the moment or in their own little bubble ? A narcissist can't stand your success or happiness.

Psychopathologies are all about distortions between reality and self, between inner self and behavior. When there is the absence of such distortions - masks, projections, defense mechanisms, etc., there is authenticity. That's going from acting, to really living.

* without needing that person, or allowing oneself to be walked upon. One must be at least somewhat authentic / love oneself first; not trying to complete oneself, etc.